How to Stop Worrying about Your Teen: 7 Tips for Letting Go

As parents, it’s completely normal to worry about our child’s well-being regardless of their age; however, the problems associated with worry can become a bit too much when they hit adolescence.

Many parents become anxious and stressed because they know how intense this period can be.

Adolescence is characterized by numerous complex changes, both physical and mental. Consequently, the child faces a lot more temptations and risks than they did when they were younger.

Carl E. Pickhardt, Ph.D., psychologist, lecturer, and author points out, though parents wish for their children to have a risk-free passage through adolescence, it’s impossible and the reality is hard. The fact is that teens simply cannot grow up without taking risks.

Parental anxiety, as Dr. Barbara Greenber, a clinical psychologist and writer for Huffington Post, explains, is an inevitable part of parenthood and it is not without basis.

Namely, teen years are the years when children will test limits, push back, experiment with alcohol and drugs, and try to gain their individuality in different ways.

Even though it is appropriate to feel a more intense worry during your child’s teen years, particularly about his/her academic performance, alcohol and drug consumption, teen pregnancy, and the internet, excessive anxiety is a burden both for you and the child.

The problem may become ever worse if you worry about things that you don’t have the ability to control.

So, is there a way for parents to “fight off” this worrisome stage?

Parents may benefit from establishing ground rules about what their soon-to-be-adults are allowed and what they are not and maintain an open communication before they become teens.

This will not take away the worry completely, but it will definitely help you keep worry at bay and without too much pressure.

By teaching our children good values, communicating openly and regularly, and explaining thoroughly why limits matter, you can help your child be a good decision maker, who will know the difference between what is good for them and what is not.

If you are a parent who needs help navigating through excessive worry about your teen, continue reading this report. Parenting Breakthroughs has uncovered for you, a list with the 7 best ways to make letting go easier.

7 Tips for Letting Go & Worrying Less about Your Teen

     1. Don’t worry about things you cannot control

One of the most common oversights of parents is enhancing their worry by worrying about pretty much about everything, including the things which are out of our control.

Often at times, this leads to the worst assumptions and outcomes. One effective method to manage worry is to put an end to anxious questions and answers by recognizing that creating fearful possibilities does not bring any good for you or your teen.

Your imagination can bring up a lot of different scenarios that are not backed up by any facts. Although it takes time and practice, parents can learn to let go of false assumptions.

For example, if you are troubled with questions like “What if my teen contracts a serious illness?” that we cannot have the answers to, learn to redirect your energy, i.e. do everything in your power to better your child’s health.

If you worry about teen pregnancy and STDs, talk to your daughter/son about how to protect themselves once they become sexually active and explain the consequences if they do not.

     2. Accept the ups and downs

As with almost every other journey in life, parenthood also has its ups and downs.  Therefore parents, especially those raising teens, should realize that the perfect parent and teen does not exist.

Expecting nothing but perfection from your growing teen could easily cause too much anxiousness, particularly when problems arise.

Taking into account peer pressure, changes in hormones, and brain growth, your teen will experience, problems are bound to happen.

So, if we have a better understanding of adolescence, we can help minimize our worry and steer it in the right direction and thus, have a more positive impact when it comes to poor decision making and risky behavior in our teens.

Make your worry productive by using it to teach your teen how to think before they act, how to anticipate potential issues, and have backup plans.