Parenting Teens: The Top 7 Things Your Teen Wishes You Knew

As parents, we try our best to learn more about how to bring up our children in the best way possible.

We read books on parenting, google useful tips, and consult our parents, friends, relatives or professionals on how to keep optimal communication and connection with our teenagers.

But, this may not necessarily help us break our teens’ unwillingness to communicate and their growing distance. So, we are left wondering what they really feel, want and need.

According to Joanne Stern from Psychology Today, parents can learn a lot about their teens’ needs by asking THEM for advice.

At first, you may think that asking your teen for their thoughts on a certain matter seems illogical because “how could they possibly know more about life than you do?”

Without doubt, they don’t have your experience and knowledge, but they DO know themselves best.

And, deep inside, they all want and need your admiration and acceptance. A good parent knows how to activate the communication “link” with their teens and listen to their child’s thoughts and opinions as much as they share their own views.

Remember, successful communication is a two- way street and parenting is definitely no exception.

With this in mind, this report will share the 7 most common things that teens wish their parents knew.

These are the things your teen would most like to say to you but can’t bring themselves to raise them. To discover these “secrets’, read on….this list will interest you, it may even shock you!

The Top 7 Things Your Teen Wishes You Knew

1. Accept my mood changes and frustrations

If you notice that your teen is moody or annoyed and even rude to you, it doesn’t necessarily have to be about you.

Often, this behavior is a result of the fact that they are not yet prepared to talk about what’s bothering them. Don’t immediately pressure them into telling you what is going on if they don’t want to – they may be trying to figure out things on their own.

Be there for them, but don’t interrupt them. This may actually help them become more comfortable in speaking to you about their life and ask for your advice. This is what every parent wants, right?

2. Don’t take me for granted

From a biological point of view, a teenager’s brain is starting to process information differently. To parents, these cellular changes appear as the “rebellious phase”.

But, though it may not feel like it, your teen is not doing things to make you mad, but they are creating their own moral codes through formulation and testing their feelings and thoughts.

Therefore, don’t be surprised when she tells you that she wants to become a singer, despite living in a family of doctors, and immediately dismiss her thoughts.

Regardless of the struggle or issue, they are going through, our role is to support them and never dismiss their opinions.

3. You’re not always right

As parents, we’re major authority figures in our children’s lives, and as such, many of us think that we should always come across as knowing it all.

However, there will come a time when your teen will point out that you don’t know it all. And it’s not a good idea to use your authority in such a way as to domineer over your teen.

Taking responsibility as an adult is important for our kids to see

As parents, we have to model what it looks like to be an adult and apologizing when we’re wrong is part of that.

Our kids learn most from our actions and what those actions say about us as a person.

When we teach our children that it’s OK to make a mistake, they’re more likely to  admit to us when they’ve made one themselves.

And when the lines of communication are open, we’re in a better position to help our teens make better decisions.