The Top 8 Parenting Mistakes & How to Avoid Them

Parenting teens is one of the most challenging life experiences and therefore, regardless of how caring we can be as parents, mistakes are inevitable.

Problems may arise when parents do not recognize that there is room for improvement and they fail to change some of their parenting approaches that led to mistakes.

As parents, we need to be aware that making mistakes is completely natural, but correcting them and improving them is not. For this to happen, parents need to have the courage to admit their faults, especially to their children.

The challenge therefore, is to recognize mistakes, begin over, try new methods, and create healthier relationships.

Sean Grover, psychotherapist, author, and public speaker with more than 20 years of working experience with children and adults emphasizes that parenting requires parents to grow together with their children and evolve, and in so doing, become better parents and human beings.

When we learn how to recognize our mistakes, apologize, and try to do better next time, we are strengthening the connection with our children and giving them a sense of well-being and safety.

Parents who apologize and accept their mistakes are teaching their children that imperfection is part of who we are. But, we are also teaching them that accountability and improvement matters more than the mistake.

But, being able to see our own mistakes is not always easy and requires practice, especially when it comes to parenting and families.

How can we as parents always know what’s the right or wrong approach? How we stop making the same mistakes over and over again? How can we become more flexible?

The following report identifies 8 of the most common parenting mistakes and offers some tips on how to avoid them.

 

8 of the Most Common Parenting Mistakes & How to Avoid Them

     1. Being overprotective

In today’s world, parents’ anxiety rates are going up and as a result, they are protecting their children a bit too much.

Even though it’s natural and expected to want to protect our children from making mistakes, if we do it excessively and at any given moment, the child cannot learn to think for themselves.

We’re denying them the chance to learn from their own mistakes and be accountable and responsible. Plus, the child will not be able to learn how to face challenging emotions like disappointment, anger, etc.

Having this skill is vital for surviving in the real world where we are dealing with such emotions on a daily basis.

If we want our children to be resilient and equipped to handle the many challenges life throws at us, it’s important not to fear mistakes. When mistakes happen, use them to work with your child on their problem-solving skills and how to be more responsible in the future.

By doing this, we help our children grow from their experiences and learn how to make better choices in the future.

Be more open to listening to his/her requests, whether this is a new hobby or going somewhere with friends. Give them appropriate chores as they grow to enhance their individuality and responsibility.

     2. Being the “tiger parent”

This term had not become popular until 2011 when Amy Chua, a professor of law at Yale and mother of two wrote a book about her style of parenting, i.e. tiger parenting.

She ascribes this type of parenting to the Chinese; however, anyone can be a tiger parent, regardless of where they live or come from.

A tiger parent is the one who thinks that they will keep their children safe by “arming” them with work habits, different kinds of skills, and inner confidence for the future.

Though it certainly has it positive sides and can be motivating, it also has its downsides.

The constant emphasis on education and contribution to society may seem as a good parenting approach; however, what if the child does not live up to the parents’ expectations?

What if your child has a different image in his/her head about his/her life?

Even if we have the best in mind for our youngsters, pushing for high standards and academic excellence can affect the child negatively and lead to anxiety, high stress, and other issues.

In order to be effective and good for the child, our parenting needs to be balanced between setting high standards and supporting their choices and passions while establishing a nurturing surrounding full of mutual understanding.

     3. Sweeping problems under the carpet